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| | Some people think that with cremation, little needs to be done but to have their cremated remains scattered.
As part of the cremation process, visitation and service are every bit as profound and helpful for survivors, as they are for a traditional funeral with burial.
 These are just a few of the many reasons:
-to give focus to the grief process we need for healing.
-to allow family and friends to come together in a safe setting for support of each other.
-to provide a place to share memories, tributes and appreciation for the unique life of the person being remembered.
-to recognize the final events in a person's life and offer loved ones a chance to say a last goodbye.
-When I'm called on to officiate at the funeral of a member of my congregation very often the surviving family will say, "We're not religious, do we have to do all this stuff?"
Yes, you have to do it. Not to make God happy, but because you need it. The temptation is to go off and hide in a dark room by yourself. You need to open that door, let people into your life, share the funeral with other people who are grieving. We always use ritual as a way of keeping away chaos. When life becomes unpredictable we need something prescribed and familiar. There is nothing more chaotic than the eruption of death into our lives, and so at a time like that even people who ordinarily are not ritually inclined have this need to do it the prescribed way, the traditional way. The same people who said, "I'm not religious, what do I need this for?" are the ones who will tell me two weeks later, "You know, we really needed to do those things. I don't know why they worked, but they worked."
-Harold Kushner
Memorialization matters, too.
As the years go by, having a place of memorialization allows family and friends a tangible area to visit - a sacred spot where you can engage in quiet reflection and rekindle treasured memories.
Call on us with questions you hae about cremation. We'll give you answers--and understanding--at no cost or obligation. |
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